Becoming Self-Study

Heal the Tension. Rebuild the Bond. Lead the Repair.

A self-paced emotional repair program for mothers and adult daughters ready to create a new kind of relationship - with more safety, trust, and closeness.

You're in the right place if...

You’re a mother or adult daughter navigating:

Tension, silence or emotional distance
Conversations that feel polite but never truly connected
Guilt, anxiety or fear of “saying the wrong thing”
The ache of wanting closeness - but not knowing how to begin again

You’ve tried therapy, space, or saying the “right” thing but nothing has created lasting change.
This isn’t about doing more.

It’s about becoming someone new in the relationship.

What’s Inside Becoming Self-Study?

You’ll receive lifetime access to the signature Becoming curriculum - the exact program used in Hilary’s high-touch private coaching - including:

8 Core Modules

Each one includes powerful video lessons, workbooks, and tools to help you:

Shift from walking on eggshells to speaking with clarity and calm
Rebuild trust, even after years of disconnection
Break family patterns and generational silence
Become the emotional leader of your relationship

Bonus Lessons

New content is added regularly from holiday boundaries to reconnection rituals.

Signature Tools & Frameworks like:

The Hear Her™ Framework
The Shared Responsibility Map™
The Reconnection Readiness™ Assessment
The Three Safety Signals™

These tools help you apply the work in real life - text threads, family gatherings and vulnerable moments.

By the end of the program you will:

Know exactly how to create emotional safety without over-explaining or collapsing
Understand the deeper stories shaping your dynamic — and how to shift them
Set boundaries with confidence and tenderness
Speak your truth and still stay close
Stop carrying the emotional weight alone and begin healing the legacy

Becoming isn’t a fix.
It’s a return - to the version of you who leads with truth, calm and grounded love.

Peek Inside the Program

Already waiting inside:
✔️ The Culture We Inherited - The emotional blueprint as a mother or daughter and why you're not to blame
✔️ The Emotional Repair Pathway™ - How to rebuild trust in every interaction
✔️ Mapping Your History - The legacy you’ve carried and what you’re choosing now
✔️ Your Relationship Repair Roadmap - From rupture to repair, with scripts and support
✔️ Boundaries without backlash and where your responsibility ends and hers begins
✔️ How to hold her truth without abandoning yours
✔️ The Hear Her™ Framework- the communication method that has helped 100's of mothers and daughter build lasting understanding, safety and healing in high-stakes conversations.
✔️ How to rebuild without needing her to do the work first

$2500 USD

or four monthly payments of $587

Let’s Begin Together

FAQ

How long do I have access to the content?
You’ll have lifetime access to the full Becoming: Heal the Pattern program - including all 8 modules, scripts, workbooks and bonus trainings. You can move at your own pace and revisit lessons any time during that window.

What if my daughter isn’t open to talking right now?
This program doesn’t require her participation. Everything you’ll learn is about how you show up emotionally, so you can create safety, trust, and connection…no matter where she is.

Is this therapy?
No. Becoming is a guided program with emotional tools, scripts, and coaching-informed practices but it’s not therapy or a substitute for clinical care. It’s taught by a licensed therapist with 15 years of experience and ideal for women who’ve already done some inner work and are ready for a relationship shift.

I’ve already tried so much. How is this different?
Becoming doesn’t give you “scripts” to say the right thing it helps you become the woman who says the true thing. This work is grounded, embodied, and supported with reflection tools, emotional repair training, and real practice, not just concepts.

Can I upgrade to the full Becoming program later?
Yes. If within 30 days of joining Becoming: Heal the Pattern you realize you’re ready to be held, coached and supported with live coaching, you’ll have the opportunity to step into the full coaching container and recieve a credit for what you've already invested. You won’t lose your investment here, just build on it.

What can I expect?

Log in and begin anytime - no deadlines, no live classes, no pressure. Go at your own pace, revisit modules whenever you need. Concise videos, thoughtful prompts and tools you can actually use in hard moments, most lessons take 20-30 minutes. They’re designed to fit into real life.